Doesn't that hurt?

I recently went to a concert by British poet Michaela. It was really good, she is really good, but at one point I began to ask myself how is she doing this?

One song on her album, Fixing Barbie. is called 'Childhood Photographs' and it's about a suicidal friend of hers who blocks out the pain of losing her boyfriend by smoking illegal substances and cutting herself. D-E-P-R-E-S-S-I-N-G, I know but a beautiful song which is poignant in a nonchalant way (typical Michaela). Now I wonder for Michaela and for other artists, how can they bear to sing a song like that, which reminds them of a very painful time, or an ongoing problem? If I feel like crying when I hear it, how can she sing it at numerous concerts, make a video for it, practise it at rehearsals etc. etc.?

Blimey! These performer peeps are better than me at distancing themselves from personal pain or past emotions, I can still get very embarrassed thinking about that time I farted in a school disco and did not manage to cover it up, or angry at the thought of that 'friend' who slept with my boyfriend, I also still feel warm and fuzzy when I smell that boyfriend's 212 because these things happened to me and though I may not think about them all the time, they remain very real to me years after.

I don't know if I'm over-emotional, or if I'm clinging to anything I 've managed to remember as my post-baby memory deteriorates, but I take my hat off to those who can feel things deep enough to turn them into beautiful poems/songs, but disengage enough to sing/recite without becoming a wobbling mound of tears!

Boy, I know I was crying at that concert, and maybe somewhere deep, Michaela was too.

Excuse me, Are you Sure you are Ghanaian?

Ga. Ashanti. Ewe. Fante. These are a few of many Ghanaian ethnicities. Believe it or not, Ghana is populated by a cool 23,000,000 people. With this is in mind, let me ask one question: Why on earth would anyone expect all Ghanaians to look the same?

As a Ghanaian woman living in London, this is a question that has wandered around my mind for some time now, and has still found no answer. Seriously, if I got one pesewa every time I was asked if I was Ghanaian, I would be a millionaire by now. I would be even richer if I received a pesewa for every time my response (a big YES) was followed by a look of surprise from my interlocutor. What do I need to do to prove to you that I am not Nigerian, Caribbean, Sierra Leonan and all the other nationalities I'm apparently supposed to be?

For those who walk around expecting me to be a few shades lighter than a black board and short with too much junk to fit in the trunk just because I happen to be of Ghanaian descent, you really need to take a trip back to Accra and take a good look around.

I remember being at a cousin's wedding. I was speaking to a family member, when I noticed a man nearby staring at me. Although I carried on with my conversation, I was becoming a bit unnerved by how intently I was being stared at. I was beginning think I can't take any more of this when he finally approached me and rudely interrupted my conversation, "eh! excuse me, are you a Ghanaian?"
"Um, yeah" (that was me, a little surprised about the audacity of some people). I then got the once over as this man's eyes slowly ran over my body, from head to toe. When he was done, he focused on my face again and responded "it's up to you."


Although I understand for each nationality there may be a 'typical look', I don't get why people act shocked when they stumble upon someone who looks different from 'the typical'. It's not as if I go through life never expecting to be asked where I am from, I just find it very annoying when I am treated like a compulsive liar.

Flashback of the Day: Teddy Pendergrass

With everything that has been going on recently, I had not been able to get this post out.

So here it is a little late, the first flackback for 2010 goes to the late great Mr Theodore DeReese Pendergrass (March 26, 1950 - January 13, 2010). Former lead singer of Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes. One of the great vocalists of our time.

I don't want to drag this out, but basically if you don't know get to know!

Here is the man himself on the amazing 'Love TKO'...enjoy.

And here with the Blue Notes breakout single from their debut album, 'If You Don't Know Me By Now' on Soul Train.

Again with the 1979 grammy-nominated 'Close The Door'.

'Wake Up Everybody' on Sooooooooooooul Train...

And one of my favourites, 'When Somebody Loves You Back'.

Teddy we miss you! RIP

xXx Nsoromma


I had a whole post planned about a new year and new beginnings and all that but when I heard about the earthquake in Haiti, I promptly forgot about all of that. For thousands of Haitians, there will be no new beginnings. This is a country, the poorest in the western hemisphere, that has seen her "new beginning" falter time and time again. This event is another blow to her legacy and it is the most shocking yet. I cannot possibly imagine the scale of the devastation nor can I begin to understand the helplessness the Haitian people must be feeling right now. All I can do is urge. If there are any helplines in the country in which you live, I ask you to donate. Haitian singer Wyclef Jean's foundation Yele is accepting donations, as is Medecins Sans Frontieres (Doctors without borders) and the International Red Cross. There is news coverage of the earthquake on all major news outlets at the moment so it's not difficult to keep informed.

Let's all send out some prayers for our brothers ans sisters in Haiti. How much suffering can one nation take?

New Year, New Beginnings!

Happy New Year Everyone!I hope you enjoyed your holidays. Now that 2010 is finally with us, what do you hope to achieve? Although 2009 came with its good times, the biggest one for me being graduation, I must say I am glad it is over.

I feel much more positive about this year, I know the job hunting will finally lead to a new job, and I will finally be able to leave the world of retail! (I am not knocking it beacsue at the end of the day a job is a job!) I am just saying that season is over for me.

Also, I am praying things on the relationship front will start looking up. I intend to shake off the ex, who refuses to leave me alone although he lives miles away in Ghana. On top of that, I am done pining over guys whose phone calls I didn't even smell although they swore up and down they would text or call.

Next, the weight I steadily and slowly gained over 2009 has got to GO! (So that will be a big NO to big tins of maple syrup and large bars of Galaxy) ...OK, not totally, but just not as much as before. Lol!

This is just the beginning, there are a whole load of other things I intend on improving this year, but we'll take it one step at a time.

What are your thoughts about the new year? What do you want to improve/ change in you life? SHARE SHARE SHARE!

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