The calm compulsion


In this short post I'm going to talk about my body, I know I know.

I'm so sick of it being such a big concern. I'm not body dysmorphic or anything but why oh why can't it just obey me and not flow, or protrude where it's not supposed to? I don't know if this is sounding like the most shallow post ever, but I really feel that I can't really talk about weight issues to my eat-what-she-wants sister or my eat!-eat! mother, and if you mention it to other gals, they just assume that you're chatting s*"t and fishing for compliments.

What I really want to know is how does one REALLY get over body issues? Put on or Lose weight 'just because' and not let it take over one's life?
I find that when I used to stuff my face I was doing it with an attitude - 'I don't even care! I LUUURRVE my body'- and when (in final year of school) I used to starve myself and I lost weight, I was only temporarily happy with the amount I lost...so annoying!
Maybe this is just a case of never human beings never being happy and I don't want to sound too neurotic, but seriously can anyone help to stop me obsessing about this issue, it hasn't got embarrassing yet, but I don't want it to get to the point where my favourite conversation starter is ' have you read about the ...... diet?' and my most profound thought is 'how many calories in a polo mint?'

The thing is although it is very present it's still quite quiet, I'm not physically stopping my life in order to devote time to scale-hopping, and I basically eat whatever (within reason) it just amazes me how it's always ALWAYS there, and has been for about 10 years!

Does anyone out there feel 100% happy with themselves and even if not, how has anyone ended the diet-cycle or the scoff-cycle?




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7 opinionated people have something to say:

Afrocentric said...

Hi Friday's Afro!
Girl, I am feeling you on the over obsession when it comes to weight. I have the problem where I worry about the weight I seem to be putting on at an alarming rate, but don't have enough will to do anything about it. I'm really sorry, but I can't really help you with getting over the body issues, because I am not much better off than you I'm afraid. I tried the cabbage soup diet earlier this year, and guess what? I didn't lose a lick of weight. I can only sympathise with you and assure you that I thought you looked amazing the last time I saw you.

Myne Whitman said...

I would say I love my body, I could lose some weight I guess but luckily I have a regular pattern of eating where I do not add more than I can deal with at a time. Or maybe it's just genes. All the best in your efforts.

Friday's Afro said...

Thanks peeps, Myne, the regularity of your regime sounds much more successful than yo-yoing like I do, I guess its actually rather obvious, thanks a lot!

Sankofa said...

Hmm this is indeed a tough one. My weight is something I try not to think about because it doesn't seem to end well. Maybe you just have to make a conscious decision to be happy with the way you are. I do feel sorry for you though because I know your mum's a force-feeder but to echo Afrocentric, you looked great last time I saw you too!

Nsoromma...Child of the Heavens said...

It's funny how so many females--actually people period--have this issue. I wish I knew the answer hun, I really do!

This may sound sad but on my list of prayers to God, my weight is always a concern on there. It has been since I hit puberty. I think maybe it's about having a good relationship with food. All in moderation and all that. Sorry but that's the best I can do. I have never been much of a dieter. In fact the moment someone mentions 'diet' I get hungry. But I do notice sometimes my body starts to moderate itself and I am more aware of what it feels like to actually be full and hungry, which sounds dumb but I think it's pretty important. When it get's like that I follow what my body is saying and generally it is at times like that that my weight starts to drop. For me, all forced attempts fail woefully.

That's my two pesawa's and here's one more, if you'd never mentioned it I would have never known you had an issue with your weight. And like the other girls I thought u looked pretty hot, last I checked :D

Anonymous said...

I'm no expert on weight loss but I have tried to diet once, and that ended 7 days sooner than it should have when I purchased a delicous caramel frappuccino from starbacks (with the whipped cream)! I have lost weight however, with good eating habits and consistent exercise. I didn't deprive myself but I made better choices. I thought carefully about my eating habits and decided I eat best when I cook for myself so I made my own meals, and I carried healthy snacks, which stopped my habit of buying whatever was available when I was hungry. I also exercised regularly. I started with powerwalking an hour every day and before I knew it, I was running. This is the only time I have actually lost weight.

Nana said...

I did weight watchers and it really worked for me. It still works for me even though I am in Ghana now. I introduced the concept to my colleagues last year and set up our own support group - we all lost a ton of weight. Yes some of us (myself included) put some of it back but we never got back to our original weight.

I think the struggle with weight can be continuous but the secret is to persevere...

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